I wrote the poem below a few days after a horrific business dinner.
Four people at the table sprung some news on me. A decision had been taken that directly affected me and they were letting me know. Their chosen course for moving forward came without consultation, without conversation, without any notice of the impact it would have on me whatsoever.
My usual way would be to swallow my own feelings and present a graceful, optimistic face, holding onto my own shock and outrage until later when I could deal with it privately. My tendency has long been to put the preservation of harmony and the comfort of others ahead of my own needs, you see.
This time I chose a different path.
I sat still until clarity arose. Then I expressed what I...
The Invisible Woman
by Shahmeen Sadiq
She's your greatest fan
an advocate for your gifts
promoting your offer
and growing your community
giving of her labour and love
surely if I wholeheartedly jump in
to this that I have such passion for
I will receive a share in the return
her misguided optimism says
funding her own development
flying beneath the radar
infinitely creative, always learning
Yet you don't won't or can't see her
The gaze flits over her in favour
of brighter façades, who know the rites:
The right words to say
The concepts to preach
The quotes of the learned ones
And settles for that
Less personally confronting
Pretty resonance of same
while she, eyes downcast,
filled with shame that doesn't...
by Shahmeen Sadiq
Speak your truth…gracefully
Share your thoughts…carefully
Write an article…but provide evidence
Take a stand…but show us your credentials
Take up space…but not too much
Have an opinion…but don’t be confrontational
Be a leader…but let us go first
Be fierce…but not too angry
Don’t be invisible…but let us be the experts
Don’t be quiet…just be careful
Don’t be loud…your passion is overwhelming us
Your experience has validity…until our feelings get hurt
You are welcome…as long as you don’t ask us to change
If you have ever felt...
In order to make any sustainable change I believe that unearthing the deeper and difficult things is essential. Bring them into the light where we can look at them together, then we can work usefully with this rich fodder. I’ve become quite good at this over the years, basing all of my work on this premise.
So, this morning when the word EASY emerged as I walked in the flower park, it caught me by surprise.
Easy? Impossible, I scoffed. Human development is solemn and important work.
Like the leaves of the Hosta above, unfurling effortlessly no matter what the weather, the invitation tapped at me again, “What if you could bring a spirit of 'easiness' to it all?”
Then it struck me.
My story is that doing this deeper...
With this article, I want to focus on something that arose today in the daily Power Pause relating to energy and flow. This week we've intentionally focused on "sending energy" to various groups of people affected by the coronavirus, which some participants in the Power Pauses have found draining.
How Full Are You Keeping Your Cup?
People who work in service to others are by nature loving, giving, generous types. This is the hallmark of the leadership quality we call Relating: we form warm and caring relationships with other people. We thrive on helping, providing support, being there for them.
One occupational hazard of Relating is depletion. Imagine that your generosity and service is like cool clear water in the...
This piece came through today as I wrote my morning pages. I have been feeling a lot of anxiety about the coronavirus and through a powerful conversation last night with two friends, I finally got clear about what exactly is bothering me. It is the thought of death - death of many aspects of life as we have known it, my own physical death and the death of people I love.
As often happens, guidance came through my hand to be recorded on the page. These sacred exchanges are such a gift! I've shared the guidance in italics, so it is easier to understand the flow of this conversation.
Before I can revel in the moment, I must acknowledge my grief in saying goodbye to the past. Letting go of the...
The undulation of life carries us through expansions and contractions. We must have both. To expand indefinitely is neither sustainable nor possible.
Many times I have operated as if I am immune to this basic natural truth: “I can do, have and handle it all! I’m uber-capable, super-human, invincible! Resting and restoring is for weaklings! I don’t need any of that.”
The inevitable crash that follows finds me spent and depleted, face down in the mud.
For the most stubborn, like me, it is sometimes only there, at the very bottom, battered and bruised, the taste of blood and dirt on my tongue, that I am available to any other possibilities. My exhaustion catalyzes an essential surrender that was previously...
surrender, surrender Dear One
relax into the arms of the Mother
and know that you are home
put down your weapons
let down your hair
set it all down
it doesn't serve you now
turn towards yourself
turn towards each other
let love flow
bow, smile, let tender
across the breathways of the sky and sun and
wind and breeze
allow yourself to be enlivened
from the inside out now
let love flow
you are sisters and brothers in
One Great Human Family
can you see it?
can you feel it now?
this great pause that you are
invited to take
will nourish what is here
what has always been true
soak up this opportunity
revel in this pause
let the goodness of your true nature
send gratitude, appreciation
and joyful wishes across the ...
This week we've been talking about this sense of not enoughness that so many of you have resonated with. If feeling we are not enough is so negative, and so unnecessary, then why do we experience it? Where does it come from?
Whenever I begin my work with my clients, I always ask them to tell me their life story, beginning with what it was like being a kid in their family. After more than 15 years of asking this question of hundreds of human beings, I can say that this sense of not enoughness comes from experiences that shaped us when we were young.
Sometimes it's grounded in trauma: death of a loved one, drug or alcohol addiction, abuse, physical or mental illness, constant severe conflict between parents, and the list goes on....
As the end of the year approaches, when holidays, celebrations and gatherings abound, you may notice your "not enough" button getting pushed a bit more than usual.
Like when you feel like you should be doing more.
Or you're concerned about what that certain someone thinks of you.
Perhaps you wish you were a better cook,
or that your home looked neater,
or that you had lost those extra 10 pounds already.
Entire industries are grounded in the belief that we are not enough and that we must improve, become better, get more, and fix ourselves. No wonder so many people feel disheartened and depressed! It's hard to be happy when we're constantly evaluating whether we meet the standard of perfection that is projected as the ultimate...