The relationship between people pleasing and trust has come up a few times this week in my work with my clients. Seems there are many people who believe, like I did, that pleasing others fosters trusting relationships.
In my first career in the public service, my energy was mostly spent trying to figure out what the "right" answer was before speaking. I had a compulsive need to please my boss, my colleagues, the folks on my team and our clients. I was afraid that if I crossed any of them, relationship would be eroded and it would be harder to get the work done.
Conversations circled endlessly, never landing on a firm course of action. Whenever someone seemed unhappy I would backpedal or worse, try to...